God Speaks Words of Affirmations

Last week, I introduced a series about God speaking your Love Language. Today, I want to dive specifically into what I have been learning and relearning about the Love Language of  Words of Affirmations, more specifically in relation to God. Read last week's post here.

As you may already know, there are many people who feel most loved when they hear words expressing love. The words “I love you” will be very important to them as well as the various dialects such as gratitude, words of encouragement, compliments, etc. They are great at speaking the words of their heart as well as feeling most loved through words.

What about God? Does God speak Words of Affirmations? Do these people feel loved by God and when and how?

This is actually one of the easiest languages to see how God speaks it. We have words of scriptures that are full of phrases about love. Often these people will feel God's love as they read the scriptures, as they listen to sermons, or even as they sing music about his love. If they aren't feeling loved by God, they may even feel more chastised by some of these as some parts of scripture can appear to be criticism. If they are not feeling God's love, then they would actually find it beneficial to immerse themselves in more of these activities. Spend time in scriptures and sermons. Reading or listening for God's love. During hard times, they are likely to have a phrase from a sermon or scripture come to mind to remind them of God's love, although this can happen for any type it will be more impactful for the words person.

To grow feelings of love in a relationship with God, it is good to speak your own language to God. For a words person, this could look like prayers full of gratitude and compliments for God's works. It could be what leads someone to be a preacher or speaker declaring God's love to others, spreading words of his love. They may also be inclined to join choirs expressing love through music. They are the choir members that really focus on the meaning of the words. They could write poetry, music, or other forms of declaring love to God.

I find it interesting to observe the people I interact with. I am in my church choir. Knowing what I know about love languages, I have seen three types of people end up in choirs the most. It's pretty easy to tell the words people because they rave about the words and the message being expressed. When they are the leader, they ask us to really think about the meaning of the words we are singing.

In my church, we have leaders that we call bishops. They get changed out about every five years. They are simply men being asked to serve as a leader for the congregation. They have no training in the clergy. They could have more or less training than the people they serve, just by the nature of their own studies in life. I had one such bishop that is obviously a words person.

This leader always referred people to articles put out by our church. He knew exactly where to find these words of wisdom and who said them. His awareness was uncanny. He was also prone to complimenting the congregation members and he gets really upset at the little word jabs some people do in jest. He's super sensitive to words. His sermons were always full of the love of God expressed in his words. He knew through what he read and heard that God loved him and he wanted everyone to know it and where to turn for that same feeling of love.

Some great questions that Dr. Chapman asks to help you discover your own language are these:

(1) How do I most often express my love to God? Are you expressing through the words you speak to and about Him? Are you using the words in a song to tell Him?

(2) What do I most often complain about to God? I think this line from the book is a great example for words people, “If someone complains that the pastor's sermons are rambling and meaningless, that person's primary love language probably is words of affirmation.” If you don't hear anything meaningful at church, you may question God's love for you.

(3) What do I request from God most often? If you are a words person, you may request wisdom or the right words to say. You might find yourself requesting messages.

Even if you aren't a words person, can you see your love language by asking these questions? Let me know in the comments.

If your primary or even your secondary love language is words of affirmation, how do you express love to God? How do you recognize his love for you? I would love to learn more so please let me know in the comments!


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With love from my heart to yours,

Michele

Intuitive Healer

Healing homes and the Soul's who love them.

God Speaks Your Love Language

One of my favorite subjects is Love Languages. I am pretty sure you have heard of the concept by now. It's pretty prevalent. Gary Chapman wrote his first book back in the 90s. He's written or co-written a few since then. I find out new things about the Love Languages each time I read one of his books.

My favorite book by him is “God Speaks Your Love Language”. Most of the Love Language books are based on the idea of finding out what someone's love language is and speaking their language to foster feelings of love in that person. Well, with God, it's not quite the same.

God speaks all of the love languages. He's not bound by our speaking a specific language to him. What he seeks from us is our ability to know He loves us, and our ability to spread and grow language toward him and others. With God, it's about learning to really speak your own language to Him, which will, in turn, allow you to feel more loved by Him. Then adding in the other languages as we learn and grow in our ability to speak love.

To remind you, here is a brief overview of each language in the order they are presented in this particular book. I'll be following up with a post specifically about each language and the ins and outs as I understand them of how they work with God.

Words of Affirmation is about using words to express your love. There are varying dialects so if you have a words person in your life, you might want to note the ones that they respond to most. There are words of encouragement, words of recognition, polite manners, gratitude, and more. It's really important that you use kind words with a words person because they are especially sensitive to criticism. This isn't to say that all people that are sensitive to criticism have the words love language but all who have the words love language will be sensitive to words.

Quality Time is about spending time with someone. For them, it is about being with the people. Sharing activities, having direct conversations without distractions of phones and such. Again there are dialects. Some will really enjoy just being in the same room as you and some will prefer to do specific types of activities. This is another area that if you believe your loved one is a quality time kind of person, be sure to also observe their favorite dialects.

Gifts is about symbols of love and thought. It can be one of the most challenging languages to have because it is often judged as being materialistic. This isn't true. It's not ever about the item you gift them, it's about the thoughts and feelings behind it. The gift says, “I think about you when I am not with you,” which is what they also do for you. There are dialects here too. Some have a dialect that involves food, some have a dialect that involves presence, some enjoy trinkets, and some especially love homemade. Pay attention to how you respond to a gift they give as well, it's important to them that the gifts they give are received well.

Acts of Service is about serving. They may love it when you provide for them, shelter, food, etc. They may love it when you vacuum or wash dishes. These people are naturally inclined to take care of you and your needs and often expect the same in return. I'll be honest, this one is my hardest to speak.

Physical Touch is about touch, of course. It can be hard for men to decipher the truth about this one because they are usually wired to love sex. Sex is important to a touch person and they will enjoy and crave other kinds of touch as well. They will usually love hugs, but may not care for hugs from people they don't actually care about. Wrestling, tickle fights, holding hands, etc might all be the deepest sense of love for them.

All of the Love Languages have dialects. It's always important to discover not only their love language but also the dialects they love the most. Some people will say there are more than five languages but I agree with Dr. Chapman that there are five languages with a lot of dialects.

One challenge is where they overlap. The gift of presence could look like quality time to the person who looks only at that one aspect. A gifts person may love cards which could cause you to think they are a words person. A service person might enjoy working alongside someone which could also be mistaken for quality time. With my own Love Language, I can see dialects within all of the other languages. This can be really hard to figure it out unless you look at the whole picture.

I think it's really important to know your own love language. It helps you to notice where you are speaking only your language. It helps you notice that someone else isn't speaking yours and that's why you doubt their love. It can help you see where you need more work, like how I struggle with service but have an important relationship that has service as the Love Language.

I found it interesting and beneficial to take the test in different ways. Here is where you can find all four tests. https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ (The links to Amazon are affiliate but the ones to the love language quizzes are not.) I have taken the one for couples, even though I am currently single. I have taken the one for singles. I have taken the one for teens thinking of how I would have responded as a teen, which I found very insightful for me. I have even taken it as a child, trying to think of how I would have taken it if I were a child. I do always get the same answer for my main one and varying for the second, third, and fourth languages. Service is always last. :)

One thing to note, my sweet friend refers to the languages as layers. She talks about your dominant one being the one closest to the heart. It's the one we hear the best because it's right near our hearts. As the layers move out each getting further from the heart, we'll eventually get to the one furthest from our heart. This is the one that is hardest for us to believe. We do possess all five of the Love Languages.

Be sure to comment below what your love language is and why you feel it is important to know your language as well as others.

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With love from my heart to yours,

Michele

Intuitive Healer

Healing homes and the Soul's who love them.

Buried Feelings About God

This blog has been so hard to write. I just haven't known what to say.

It's been a crazy time for me. I knew surgery would be interesting, I didn't expect it to wipe me out the way it did. It wasn't just that there was more pain, it was that I was downright exhausted too.

This month, our roof started leaking. I personally, associate the roof with God, higher self, or other crown chakra energy. Of course, being me, I had to look at what was going on.

Water leaks often can be associated with grief or tears. Did I have a lot of grief with God? I didn't really know. I was trying to address it, did energy work on the home and self. It seemed to get cleared and yet, it leaked again.

Then I did a technique from Rachel Archelaus. She teaches Intuitive Art, which is another way to find out what is going on when you just can't find the answers looking straight on.

I was doing this process for issues with reading my scriptures. Why wasn't I reading? My results were interesting. There was some anger, some disconnect, and way over on the side, there was a big ball of sadness. There is that sadness idea again.

I took to healing. Why was I angry? Why was I sad? I have been dealing with a lot of layers but I want to tell you about one.

I was promised in three different blessings that I would heal quickly. A week ago, as of writing this, I was told that in a week I would be able to be off of the crutches, still using the brace. Well, here I am, not only am I still on the crutches, but a spider scare caused me to jerk my knee into a place of great pain so I couldn't put any weight on my leg for a while.

I lost it. I cried about broken promises and feeling betrayed. Promises of a sweetheart. Promises of healing, and it's not going so fast. Promises of a “beautiful home with the necessities of life”. I have so many promises given to me in priesthood blessings that aren't coming true that I feel anger and betrayal. This is showing up in this intuitive art, in my home leak, and in this overall depression I have had in the last little while.

It's hard to admit that I have been angry and felt hurt and betrayed by God. No wonder I haven't wanted to read scriptures and I have not had much desire to return to church when I do get better. I love the scriptures and I love church and I believe it to be true but there are all these hurt feelings.

With awareness comes healing. Now I know where to heal the deepest hurts. I know what I am really feeling so I can really deal with it.

Do you have similar things going on in your life? Feelings you just can't figure out. Maybe you have signs coming at you in your body, your home, or even through different intuitive methods. Are you giving yourself permission to receive the messages and go deep into healing? I sure hope so. If you need help, I'm super happy to help you come to a place of peace.

With love from my heart to yours,

Michele

Intuitive Healer

Healing homes and the Soul's who love them.