Start in the Middle

Having a fun conversation with my daughter. It all started with a conversation about her desire to be an actual bard. Well, really it started last night when we were talking about how her back was out of alignment and that led to talking about her room (because I'm me) and we discovered what area was out of alignment. Purpose, it all boiled down to purpose.

She hadn't even done any of the work in her room and just the awareness last night had her writing in her book, after being stuck for a while. Along with the book was her talking about what she really wants to do. She wants to go around singing and telling stories in person like an actual bard. Just that awareness last night was powerful enough to get her moving forward. Imagine what will happen when she actually does the work in her room!

It led me to talking about my career. What room in the house is associated with my career? The laundry room. We talked about how overwhelming it is. Her stuff is in there. My mom's stuff is in there. My stuff is getting buried. How I don't know where to start? This is where her quote comes in. "I would start in the middle because people don't expect that."  

Starting in the middle of this challenge isn't really an option because I wouldn't know where the middle is. The thing that struck me was "people don't expect that." How could I approach this in a new and unexpected way?

I decided to go the route of saying, "Yes, I want to be invisible. Why do I want to be invisible?" Although I didn't get direct answers. The energy opened up and other ideas started coming. 

The next day, we were talking to my younger daughter about how her style makes her feel sexy. She said the word sexy with such shame. I'm not talking the sexy of immodest clothing but there is such a connotation around the word that we can't see it any other way. Again, me being me, we went clearing that. She had some comparisonitis to take care of.

We ended with dancing to some songs that own being sexy. Mehan Trainor's song "Me Too" was one we played. My older daughter came in my face and sang "If I were you, I'd want to be me too." That's when things came back around to me. My internal response was, "Yeah, I do want to be you."

In fact, as I'm looking through different thoughts they all boil down to "I don't want to be me." It's not an unheard of thought in my head, but it isn't one that stood out so strong before. Now, I'm healing it. Will it be fully gone the next time I write? I hope so but if not, it's ok because layers will be gone and that's a step closer.

An unexpected approach brought an idea fully into my mind to address. What unexpected approach do you need in order to heal your life and declutter your home?

Michele

Soul Shine Specialist
a Decluttering & Healing Guide

Permission to Know

This post might be a little different. I'm going to open up about some of my religious beliefs as I share with you an important tool in my toolbox. Permission to know is a powerful tool that allows me to get some clarity about truth. Be sure to read to the end for an important warning concerning this tool.

In my line of work, it is quite common for people to leave religious beliefs. The concept of being spiritual without religion is quite common, and many choose to leave religion. Just like a person can go to church every week and not actually be spiritual. For me, this means sometimes I question what I believe. I want to have a solid foundation in whatever I believe. I choose to be religious and spiritual.

A few years ago, I started questioning my beliefs in God. Was I making it all up? Is there really a separate all-knowing being or what? The thing I noticed was this desperate fear of letting go of everything I believed in. I knew in order to really know, I would have to be willing to let it go. I actually said, “I give myself permission for all of this God stuff to be a lie.” Energy moves and clears when we declare such things. Unlike many who give themselves this permission, I knew it wasn't enough.

It's too easy to give ourselves permission in one direction. Especially when some part of us thinks it could be easier. Think of all the rules I wouldn't have to follow if there was no God. After a couple of minutes, I made another declaration. “I give myself permission to know God is real.” Immediately my mind was reminded of miracles in my life, times when I could not deny God's hand in my life. My body was filled with lightness and love and I knew. I know God is real.

As time has passed, I have had other things to question. Things about church. Things about myself. I find that the experiences are similar. When I give myself permission in both directions, I allow myself to receive my truth. One side of the coin will come with light feelings and a sense of expansion. Sometimes you will have mixed energies on a subject. As you give yourself permission to know the truth, the false ideas will begin to dissipate. You will be left with the absolute truth when you are truly willing to know.

One way we can use this is with beliefs about ourselves. Say you feel unworthy. Declare, “I give myself permission to know I am unworthy.” Notice how that feels in your body. Does it bring you joy and expansive feelings or sorrow and contractive feelings? Now declare, “I give myself permission to know I am worthy.” Notice how this feels. You might even cry in joy and relief as your being begins to feel worthy. If you don't have clear answers, repeat the process until you actually know. 

Lies make energy contract. The lies we tell to ourselves. The lies we tell others. The lies they tell us. The lies that we have been raised with because no one knew better. Truth makes energy expand. Our truth. God's truth. Their truth. Expansive energy always leads to love, joy, and bliss. 

The reason this tool works is because of how we often either hold on so tight or push ideas so far away that we don't allow the truth in. When you hold on so tight to one idea, you don't allow any light to come in. Likewise, when you refuse to even entertain an idea, you can't let light in. Even the light you are trying to hold onto cannot fully come in when you hold so tight. When you give permission for both sides to be true, you let go of all the barriers and allow the truth to come in with all its glory.

WARNING! Sometimes when you give yourself permission on the first side of the coin, you will feel such a sense of relief as you let go of the tight controls. Do not mistake this for lightness and expansion. You must give yourself permission for both sides in order to really be able to compare both sides and receive the full truth. When you give permission to both sides, you get to a neutral place that allows all the truth to manifest. There may be bits of truth on both sides that can now be known.

Please let me know what happens when you try this. Did you resist trying this? Why or why not? I love to hear your feedback.

With love from my heart to yours,

Michele

Life Facilitator

I'm inviting you to wake up and live!

Capable

Today, I spent time with my mom. She's been gone for just over 18 months. Yes, I miss her. What isn't always talked about is the relief that sometimes comes with death. I had a lot more relief than I care to admit and a lot more than most people knew.

Today, I was healing. I wrote a list of some of the ways she criticized me and the messages I received from both what she said and how she treated me. I didn't care about getting everything out. I went with the few things that came. I plan to repeat the process a few times.

I remembered when we were moving. My mom sent me to bed. She let my brother stay up to help her pack. I remember feeling a little hurt but I had no clue the depth of pain I held in that memory. I received a big message, “You are not capable. You require more sleep than Steven.”

I have been looking for where the energy that taught me that I am not capable came from. I couldn't find it. I didn't know where to look. I think it's because I tend to look for one big event but this one was line upon line. The line when I was little told me I was too young to clean the toilet. This huge thing when I was twelve. A few other messages along the way. All add up and eventually, I just “know” that I am not capable and I get illnesses that prove that belief right.

I had a friend tell me that my words about work told him that I was believing that I wasn't worthy of money or that I was only worthy to be poor. He meant well, and I could definitely see why he thought that. I want to share with you that sometimes it isn't about worth, even when you think it is. I knew I was worthy of money and that I was worthy and deserve to have money. I didn't believe I was capable. All the worth in the world won't change your life if you don't believe you are capable.

If you have been working on self-love, self-worth, and other similar things and you aren't seeing changes in your life, consider that there is another word in the way. For me, it was capable. For you, it could be something else. 

If you want some assistance on this, reach out. It doesn't have to be to me, but I am here for you if you need it. I just want to see you shine, no matter how you get there. I know you are worthy, beautiful, and I even know you are capable! And so am I!

With love from my heart to yours,

Michele

Soul Shine Specialist

Wake up and live!